Grrrrrr!

[Bill]

I received a call from the chairman of my dissertation committee about communication difficulties. One of my committee members claimed I never told him the date and time. Wrong!

I told him in a letter in the end of April that it would be on May 27th at 1PM. He sent me a stick-it note on a form he had signed that Friday at 1PM was not a good time but anytime after 3:30PM would be better. I then spoke to the chairmen a few days later and we spoke of the time. He indicated that he was going to call the other committee member and tell him the time when he did talk to him. Wrong!

So whose fault is it? Mine! Wrong! At least not in my mind did I do anything wrong. I have a paper trail which proves it.

So I have to give my full presentation to the committee on Thursday at 8PM after driving there ALL DAY LONG! I hope that they are aware of it!

So now you know why I was growling.

[Shirley]

:confused: Where do they get off on these stupid mix-ups????? :confused:

[harleybaby]

Well, you definitely have the right to growl!!!! After Thursday do you still have to deal with the commitee or will you be done? Try not to let it upset you too much this should be a great time in your life, I only hope that after Thursday you'll be done with it. I was trying to rememeber but didn't I read that this same exact thing just happened to you when noone showed up and that's why they moved it to be able to do it over the phone. Hang in there Dr. Bill!;)

[morgavin]

Bill,
:shrug: Rain on a duck.......you don't have many more hoops to jump through to achieve your hard earned goals. It will seem different next year....rain on a duck... Neil

[Bill]

No more growling here. I am not angry any longer either. In this situation anger would only cloud my ability to provide the best presentation. I would be focusing on what injustices happened instead of being able to see what I can gain from this situation.

I want to avoid acting when I am emotionally upset and deprive myself of the wisdom life has in store for me to acquire from this situation. It is all in how I choose to perceive this whole experience. I don't want to handle this situation with anger as it would only cause the committee to be defensive and I would appear resistant and inflexible.

I choose to be open to changes and not try to forcefully control situations in my life..which could destroy my serenity and keep me from loving myself and others. I remember that I have everything I need to enjoy my here and now.

Thanks for your support. Sort of had an awakening moment after I originally posted this thread.

[morgavin]

Bill I hope you understand what I mean by "rain on a duck". Does YOU no good. Just let it slide off and be yourself. Then you can really show 'em...GL....:) Glad to hear you've settled down

[Bill]

Yes Neil...I follow you. I do appreciate your words of wisdom. I just had to sit and look at what happened and how it really did not change too much in my life. I said to myself: I am still going to graduate...so just live and learn. I want to live my life so that I can be an example so to help others reach similar life goals. Thanks again!

[morgavin]

Bill we haven't introduced. I'm an older fella been through more than you can imagine. I've survived an abusive alcoholic father that shot at me with a rifle when 13. I could tell you stories of growing up in the steets of Seattle that would make you wonder how N E one could still be ok. I now own and run a small construction company. The one thing I have learned is basically this " It's NOT the hand you dealt, its HOW you play those cards." Don't ever let any one else cause you to not be Bill.
Shine in spite of them or what happens. I have a great deal of gratitude for you starting this forum. It has helped me tremendously. N E little word of encouragement or support would be a small return for what I have gained. Thnx and go blow 'em away.....

[Bill]

Neil,

I appreciate you and the words you shared here with me. I am thankful that you are here and that we all can learn from one another. I have heard the saying you quoted and believe it to be true. When I was 16-years-old I told a lady on a trip that I was not going to allow the world to put a dent into me; however, I was going to put a dent into the world. I haven't forgot my words that day...wow...25 years ago! I also learned from a quotation by Booker T. Washington: "I will allow no man to belittle my soul to hate him." Words to live by!

When I was a small child I used to start playing around our house and end up in one of our pastures. I remember standing up and realizing the distance I had "traveled" during my play. I looked at things differently than a lot of the children I knew back then. I still find myself seeing the distance I have traveled and marveling about where my focus had been...in the moment instead of where I intended to go. I think there have been times where I have lost sight of these truths but I am thankful to you and others who recognize what life is about and can share it with others. One thing I learned while I was waiting tables was that I wanted to be the type of person that made things happen not only for myself but for others.

Neil...I am so grateful to have met you as well as being honored to have you here on BoF!!!

[Jean]

OMG Neil, I must say you are a man of wisdom and I love and agree with your outlook on life.It is a shame, the sadness and agony you had to grow up with.
Your post brought tears to my eyes when I read how you were treated as a child. :tighthug:
I am happy to read you and Bill have struck up a new friendship. :clap:

Bill, you also have a winning outlook on life. Keep feeding it and you will go far. You are well on your way. :tighthug: :clap:

[vmtwriter]

Dr. Bill, you've come a long way from that first "grrrr" post until now. You should look back and see the distance you have traveled. :)

You are in a good place in your life and you recognize that. You truly can see the bigger picture and not let small issues like times and who said what get you down.

You bring a great deal of strength to the BoF forum and for that we are grateful. :thanx:

You're going to be just fine.

[birdnerd]

*sigh*

No accounting for gooberheads.

Go get 'em!

(:

[Bill]

Thank you everyone! I appreciate you!